13 pillars of mental healthiness
When you focus on what you do have and what is going well you are much more optimistic and empowered to have a good day.
Thankfulness in the Cambridge dictionary is defined as the feeling of being happy or grateful because of something.
Picture these two scenarios:
1/ What is wrong - You wake up, and start thinking of how you have a sore back, don’t want to have to wake up yet, look in the mirror at the wrinkles on your face and dread having to go to work.
2/ What is going for you - You wake up, you are alive! You have a bed to sleep on, it is a new day, a new start, you have a mirror and you are the youngest that you are ever going to be and you have a job that brings in money!
Who is going to have a better day? It would have to be the second person. It is like they are wearing two different types of glasses.
It is very easy to look at all of the things that we don’t have and what is going wrong. This has a lot to do with our environment. We watch news media that is designed to pique our interest by showing us stories that are shocking and scary. We look at advertisements that tell us; ‘when you have this’ you will be happy. The problem is we train our minds to look for this and the result is fear and thinking about what we don’t have.
Create a life-changing Thankfulness Mindset.
When you create this mindset through disciplining your mind to think about things that you are thankful for, you feel empowered and happy. To create this mindset, you need to retrain your mind to send the thoughts down new though connections so that your first thought won’t be ‘what I don’t have’. To do this you create a Thankfulness habit:
When you wake up in the morning and before you go to bed at night, think of 10 things that you are thankful for. When a tough time comes along or negative thoughts, stop look around and think of 10 things to be thankful for. If you do this over weeks and months, you retrain your mind.
So, have a think right now, what are ten things that you are thankful for?